Invitations For Projectors in Human Design

Juliette Stapleton [00:00:00]:
Welcome to the Lighthouse projector series with, Anita Keane. and Juliette Stapleton. We are both projectors. Anita is an emotional projector, 51. I’m a splenic projector, 13. And, we are both, in the kinda domain of prosperity online visibility marketing. This is what we want to talk about. We want to talk about not Just projectors.

Juliette Stapleton [00:00:33]:
Although today’s episode is definitely aimed at the projectors because we’re going to talk about the projector strategy, which is Waiting for invitations and all the things that are sometimes misunderstood or misinterpreted and sometimes miscommunicated, and That makes us very angry. It makes our blood boil sometimes because, you know, what we see is a lot of projectors out there just Sitting on their hands waiting for something. And in the process feeling in unseen, nobody’s recognizing them, there’s no invitations coming, and so the bitterness is growing. Starting from it’s not fair, then we oh my god. I’m such a victim in life. And the truth is that it’s they are themselves are not doing anything to Be available to be what we are, to be as projectors, which is really lighthouses for others. We are here to guide. We’re here to shine our light.

Juliette Stapleton [00:01:26]:
And to really understand what it is to be a projector is the key to a very aligned way of being, which probably is not What the world tells you you should be because we are rare. Right? I really love comparing projectors to cats. This is such a good comparison because the cat, if you think about, like, the behavior of a normal cat, it’s it has its own agenda. It rests a lot. It shows up when it wants to. You know, it comes in and it it’s visible. You know? And then you can say, come on, kitty. No.

Juliette Stapleton [00:02:00]:
Come come come. It might decide. You might It might be the wrong invitation for the cat, and it might not come to you. And then, you know, other times it will because it feels like, okay. This is correct for me now. I personally, as a as a as a human, I definitely feel like I am like this in the last few years since I discovered human design and since I started Living it. Because I I truly do try and experiment with the human design system in my own life. And it is an experiment because it’s not a dogma.

Juliette Stapleton [00:02:30]:
And so Sometimes you do and sometimes you don’t. And what’s interesting about those times when you don’t is that with the awareness that you gain through all the doing and following your strategy and authority, You see very clearly things not working out when you went against, you know, a a a warning or whatever your Authorities or you you did something you initiated where you should have actually maybe waited a little bit and held back and something better or even the same thing, but it would Come in in a different, more aligned way, and that awareness is perfect. And it doesn’t matter. Most of the time, in my experience, it doesn’t matter when things like that don’t Workout because you can adjust. It’s not that it doesn’t matter, but it’s not a disaster because you can adjust. Sometimes you have to, like, let go and, you know, start a new. But most of the time, no. You can mix little tweaks.

Juliette Stapleton [00:03:20]:
You can come back. You can revisit, and things can change as well. And So, as projectors, we’re here to share. Anita, do you have in your experience, do you agree with me, or do you have any thoughts on this?

Annita Keane [00:03:32]:
Oh, absolutely. I think that the the misinterpretations to me have been quite disempowering for projectors. So they are but, you know, it’s it’s Especially because we’re leaders. We are the new leader in in by type Leading by genius and leading by finding the quickest and most effective way to do things. So we kinda sense that Under the radar. And we sense that it is our job to be invited. But then you have the bitterness or not even bitterness. It’s kind of like Almost an angst that we develop because we’re not being invited.

Annita Keane [00:04:10]:
Why are we not being invited? And and sometimes it’s Simply because we don’t know how to show up to the invitation or show up for the invitation.

Juliette Stapleton [00:04:19]:
That is so true. Or sometimes we just need to actually let time Figure things out. I can so relate. And I think that every one of us has, like, an Achilles heel in a way. So an area in your life where this angst is worse than in other areas. For me, it’s personal relationships. I’m very transparent about it. I’m here with my, know, right angle cross of consciousness and the quarter of duality.

Juliette Stapleton [00:04:43]:
I’m all about relationships and bonding and everything. And in relationships, this angst, why am I not being invited yet? I learned the hard way, of course, as a third line person. I learned that you have to give it time. That’s another trick. So it’s not always because sometimes you can feel like, okay, but I’m not showing up. So, you know, you can feel like there’s something like it’s your fault, you’re not showing up. Some you need to also like, it’s it’s like gauge when to show up.

Annita Keane [00:05:13]:
Exactly.

Juliette Stapleton [00:05:14]:
Yeah. And that happens also with grounding yourself in that waiting while being doing things that you don’t need an invitation to, Then leaving things that where the invitation is absolutely necessary, leaving that to time and circumstances and, you know, Just if it’s going to happen or not, I think.

Annita Keane [00:05:33]:
Mhmm. Mhmm. Absolutely. And for the projector, we set up a lot of things in our lives energetically first that really works for us to do that. And as you said, the timing is key. But just just as I said before, just knowing how we show up based on being a leader because our a lot of our a lot of our definitions of leaders are quite authoritarian based. They’re quite By men, for men kind of leadership rather than women leadership. And often for us, you know, you described this earlier about your relationship.

Annita Keane [00:06:09]:
It’s lovely to know how to, I I don’t wanna say initiate because that That will go against the grain for a lot of a lot of human design people. But when we know how to ask the right questions Yes. Other types, we’re almost inviting the invitation by asking the questions. You know, it’s like there’s a whole art to this, a mastery to this process. And but we’re very much again, like we’ve said in the last Podcast, we’re very much cocreators in this invitation process.

Juliette Stapleton [00:06:47]:
Absolutely. I love that because, you know, it’s really True. I want to just go back to a couple of things that you said. 1st is, energetically setting yourself up because straightaway the question is like, how do you do that? And we already you already mentioned. It’s like, first of all, assume that the own that role of a leader, Of a leader who is a guide, not a leader who is a general, even if you are a 5th person. Right? Not a leader like that. It’s a it’s a much More guidance. And you have to remember that when you’re guiding someone, let’s say in a fairy tale.

Juliette Stapleton [00:07:19]:
Right? Like, a hero has a journey, has to slay a dragon, Then the guide comes along and tells him how to. He tells him the weak spot. He tells him what’s the trick is. The guide doesn’t go and slay the dragon. The dragon’s going to exist whether the guide, you know, is there or not and knows all the secrets of the dragon. It’s not the guide’s role to go and do the thing, but it’s the guide’s role to know how to do it. And In a way, that is the the ultimate leadership is when you’re giving a person the direction. And with that direction, this other person can really go and achieve something correct for them.

Juliette Stapleton [00:07:58]:
And this is what the beauty of being a projector is. We see into the other, And we see the guidance. We can give the guidance because we see the direction. It’s not sometimes something we think. A lot of times, in my case, for example, a lot of times body knowledge, Body gives me intuition, gives me these little, you know sometimes it’s could sounds like like like a download. Why this is happening really is bringing me to how the Projector’s aura is designed. You know? So if you had to visually represent a projector’s aura, it’s like an ice cream cone. It’s it’s really focused.

Juliette Stapleton [00:08:32]:
It’s really like, it’s penetrating. Mhmm. And so it’s really sharp penetrating. And In some sources, I read that it’s it’s focused on the other’s g center, which is the home of the magnetic monopole where, you know, Everything evolves around it, you know. So you can sense somehow the direction is off.

Annita Keane [00:08:53]:
Mhmm.

Juliette Stapleton [00:08:53]:
And I know that because when I work with Clients or when when I talk to people, generally, those who are open to me, sometimes they’d be talking about something, you know. Like a client would be like, oh my god. I have to grow the audience. I have To you know, I’m gonna focus on growing my audience, like, growing my YouTube channel followers, for example. And I’m sensing with my whole body That all of this is bugs. Yeah. They they don’t need to think about it. It almost, like, annoys me because it comes from my body.

Juliette Stapleton [00:09:20]:
It’s like, no. This is wrong for you. You’re off your direction. Focus on self expression, for example. This is something much more people will self they will find you. People will find you. Don’t be scared that they won’t find you if you put yourself out there, whether you’re projector, manifesto, or any type any type. But it’s like, this is what as a projector, I find this is exactly how my interaction with the other in my life works.

Juliette Stapleton [00:09:46]:
You know? And so I can absolutely feel power. Not not power, but empowered. I feel Definitely that I am leading them, and therefore, I am a leader. But it’s the flavor of that leadership that I think it’s so important for yourself to just, You know, to taste it and then you know. And within that position then, this very interesting I can share, like, little observation. When you’re assumed that position, you’re really in your power. You become so magnetic. It’s like your lighthouse light is on, honestly.

Juliette Stapleton [00:10:18]:
And it transcends all the areas of lives. Even if you don’t think like sometimes I will be like this in my personal life and my business starts blooming. I’m like, oh, what happened there? I didn’t do anything there. But that’s because I’m energetically on. And, usually, it’s because I feel what, what I call my catness. That is exactly what this projector thing is. It’s this kinda I am this wise thing that knows. Right? Yeah.

Juliette Stapleton [00:10:43]:
Yeah. The moment I back into that. This is what I feel when you said energetically set yourself up. For me, personally, this is it. This is going back into that Cutness of being a projector, you know, and and feeling it. And it’s a calm, really grounded sense of This is what I do. This is the sense of success, which is our signature feeling.

Annita Keane [00:11:06]:
Mhmm. Mhmm. Absolutely. I totally agree with you. And it is knowing. It’s it’s knowing how I work as a projector. Knowing that when I walk into the room, I don’t have to open my mouth and people start to spin into their own balance. Because when they are generators you know, I was reading something there recently about Ra, and he was saying, you know, the truth about money is that there’s a deep seated frustration around prosperity And resourcefulness in humanity and as a whole, and he was there.

Annita Keane [00:11:40]:
Think about that. That deep seated frustration means even the sacral being is off balance In their work. Right? So this is mistaken. We pick this up and amplify it. So when we can be in balance, Their sacral naturally aligns Yeah. Into the balance. We’re like a tuning fork. We literally we we ping the balance.

Annita Keane [00:12:04]:
Ping. It’s it’s really weird. When you think about a lighthouse or a or a submarine that is pinging into the energy, into the water, We ping with balance, and people start radiating or resonating to us. So when we And we know that. And my gay my son is the gate 14, which is understanding and trusting in my ability to create Resources. So when you can trust that, and that’s the biggest thing that people struggle with, all the open heads and agendas. Well, how will I do it? I need to be certain. You know? I need to know.

Annita Keane [00:12:39]:
I need to know. But, actually, the knowing is inside, and this is a big, big, Blue for us to understand what the invitation is.

Juliette Stapleton [00:12:49]:
That is so true. What’s the name? Ownership of how you affect other people. Because, you know, I think there is a premise, especially with the a lot of openness in our designs. There is this this misconception sometimes that that People affect us as much. But I noticed exactly what you just described. I noticed that when I’m in my or when I’m in my grounded place, everyone else around, all the generators, especially because, you know, they’re so so penetrable. You know? There’s they they are the ones that get Captured. And so the moment I’m in my power, the generators in my aura are in my in their own power.

Juliette Stapleton [00:13:25]:
The moment I am off balance, they get they go crazy off balance. It’s like You get yourself a balance and then you you I really like this inject others with success because success is not just money or fame or This is not this is this completely different feeling of, I think, that wholeness and being, like, happy within. That’s what success really feels and for for us, you know, but obviously, that same feeling might feel slightly differently, and we call it satisfaction if we’re generators. Like, It’s that feeling still of wholeness which with a with a flavor. And so when we have the responsibility, I think We have the responsibility of looking after our own balance for two reasons. 1, for ourselves. Because if we’re off balance, we will never receive any invitations. Because we’re just like, in a way, running around like headless chickens being bitter about life and feeling like victims.

Juliette Stapleton [00:14:20]:
And that happens. I’ve been there. I’ve been there for a decade. You know, I know that feeling way too well. And the other thing is that how you then help others and affect others. So you guide sometimes without even saying anything. You guide others just by being present. So it is your responsibility as this energy type.

Juliette Stapleton [00:14:37]:
And I really love this whole approach of, like, what is your energy? You know, you know your energy type. Instead of thinking, oh, nobody’s inviting me and all that, you know, disempowered thoughts, think about, okay, what’s my responsibility in this life. This is what I’m going to step into.

Annita Keane [00:14:54]:
Yeah. It is. It’s amazing. And this is why human design is so flipping cool. You know, I’ve done so many different profiling systems, and I saw it in your book. You wrote it as well. And, really, they’re Manipulatable. Manipulatable.

Annita Keane [00:15:10]:
Whereas this, you know, you know human design tells you how you are going to behave when you’re in balance, That predictable behavior. As much as it tells you how predictable your out of balance behavior is, You can rely on it. You can rely on you can know, I give people flags. Here’s what you do when you’re out of balance. Right? So even very simple, the gate forties you know, in the People trying to be certain and but, you know, some of the some of the energy, say, the gate 47, Instead of waiting for the and trusting that the guidance is gonna come to people, they grasp for the details. How am I gonna do this? You know, I need to know and all these thing. Whereas, it’s like, you know, when you try to search for something, and the quick the the You’ll find it if you just go, oh my god. I you’ve looked everywhere.

Annita Keane [00:16:02]:
You’re checking all the drawers. And the next thing you sit down, you’re gonna go, okay. I give up. I open up to it Showing up for me. And it’s And it’s there. A picture in your head, and you open the next drawer, and that’s it. It’s there. Right?

Juliette Stapleton [00:16:13]:
Yeah.

Annita Keane [00:16:13]:
But the cat as well, we must remember, cat doesn’t give a shit about anything except its own needs, and I hope

Juliette Stapleton [00:16:20]:
That’s true. I know. That is so true. And it’s accurate attitude to have.

Annita Keane [00:16:25]:
It’s not

Juliette Stapleton [00:16:26]:
good to be. Like, it’s good to

Annita Keane [00:16:27]:
be a cat. You know, it is. And it’s not that they don’t care. It’s just that they’re very concerned with their own needs first. I mean, I know a friend of mine, if she didn’t feed her cat quickly enough, he’d he’d bite her he start biting at her toes in the morning. You know? I mean but they know what they need and they’re you know, it’s It’s a very, very good description of projectors idea.

Juliette Stapleton [00:16:50]:
I have to add to to this to the cats because, you know, somebody can just say, well, yeah, that’s just like selfish. They just want to eat. There’s actually cats are mystical creatures. When I was just before we immigrated from Ireland back into Estonia, where I’m from originally, we had a very mystical experience about a year before we left. A cap started coming into our house. We didn’t know what gender it was, so we called it Travis. She was it was a she, eventually, we found out. So Travis, the she cat, was coming over and every time when she came and she would be, like, sitting in the garden, she wasn’t very tamed cat.

Juliette Stapleton [00:17:27]:
She was a house cat, but she was very independent. But she just come in and sit there and look at us, and then eventually, she would allow some of us, you know, to play a little bit, but God forbid, if you touch the place, you know, just like a tiny place you can touch everywhere else. You get a bite or and this is the kind of thing about, you know, the cat knowing what It’s needs. It’s not always about, like, you know, about you and you feeding them, but it’s also about them, what they want. You know? So she comes in and she does things. Every time she came, we had a little breakthrough, about our trip which back home, which wasn’t straightforward, even pandemic. The pandemic Started in the middle of our plans to move and and everything, you know, with with getting rid of the house and stuff and, you know, all these things. There were so many complications, but every time the cat came in, a phone call would come from somewhere that we’ve been waiting for for months or something else, some breakthroughs.

Juliette Stapleton [00:18:21]:
I truly believe that cats are mystical creatures that know, and that brings me to thinking about the projectors. It’s like, how how do we know the direction? I honestly, sometimes I guide people who are open to me. You know, they invite me to guide, and I say, listen. I know In this situation that everything is going to be okay. You don’t need to worry that this is a situation that’s you’re gonna hurt because it’s not going to be But it’s going to be good. And I get this the eyes looking at me. Like, how dare you to even like, Can you say that there’s no logic to this? Like and I just know, and I’m always right. I know because it happened so many times over and over again.

Juliette Stapleton [00:19:02]:
I this at this stage, I rely my knowing to my lowing. So this cat thing about their needs, it’s like they need to save the energy. They need they know when to come in and they, You know, it’s like they have their own agenda. Having your own agenda is the key for projector. Knowing when to rest, Knowing when to create, not pushing it, not allowing this voice saying you don’t do enough. Mhmm. It will be saying it, but just not allowing it to have any, you know, strength or power over you. You know? You know what you’re doing.

Juliette Stapleton [00:19:35]:
That’s what being a cat is. That’s what being a projector is.

Annita Keane [00:19:39]:
Absolutely. Absolutely. And energetically, the cat is really good in the home. The animals are really good in the home. They really move the energy. But Akash is also apparently, they are spirit guides in that they they can sense when there’s spirit in the house, and they’ll let you know or clear that.

Juliette Stapleton [00:19:57]:
Wow. I didn’t know. Yeah.

Annita Keane [00:19:58]:
Yeah. Amazing. They are amazing creatures. We had 1 in Galway as well. And I remember doing a photoshoot there for An article on angels in the newspaper. And everywhere I went to take a picture, the cat would, What you call it when they dive is Photobomb. Photobomb. The cat would be in the background right there.

Annita Keane [00:20:19]:
Oh my god. They’re gonna think I’m a mini witch or something. Luckily, it was a white cat, but, you know, it was amazing, as you said, how the cat showed up when The insight or intuition was coming through as to what action to take. It’s because it is about the quietness.

Juliette Stapleton [00:20:37]:
Yes.

Annita Keane [00:20:37]:
That’s why it’s you know? And what I love as well is they they teach us how to treat them. So when we know our needs as projectors, we can teach others how to treat us.

Juliette Stapleton [00:20:50]:
That just gave me full body, Goosebumps the moment you said this.

Annita Keane [00:20:55]:
Exactly.

Juliette Stapleton [00:20:56]:
It was a lot of fun. Topic to talk about. Oh my god. This is great. Anita, I love it.

Annita Keane [00:21:00]:
Yeah. Yeah. We teach people how to treat us because it’s taken us so long to and so many burnouts to find out. You know? No. This isn’t working. This isn’t But I had to stop selling business through ease and grace or work with ease and grace because people just don’t trust it. There’s it So triggers the hard work ethic. The people there, oh, yeah.

Annita Keane [00:21:21]:
Yeah. Right. And yet that’s what projectors do. They guide you in. And it’s not really that it’s easy. We still have to do the work, but it’s more that you kind of learn to tune into your inner knowing as a generator, as a projector. And you start coming up with the ideas that bring that step us into the parade. Right? 20% of what we do starts to get 80% of our results Rather than the other way around.

Annita Keane [00:21:48]:
But it is. It’s we teach well, once we learn ourselves, we can now teach people. And I think A lot of people kind of they assume that others know their needs.

Juliette Stapleton [00:22:00]:
Yeah. That’s true.

Annita Keane [00:22:01]:
You know? It creates a very, I won’t say tricky, but a very, kinda codependent type of or an An expectation around relationships that can really mess them up. Because if you don’t know your own needs, how the hell can someone know your needs? You know?

Juliette Stapleton [00:22:20]:
I think I know where this from. Because, you know, we live in a pretty homogenized world, which means, for those of you guys who was like me, don’t know what homogenization is and such a weird word, Just making everyone the same. But when you live in the world where you think everybody’s the same, you’re going to think that they’re the same as you. You know, that’s the interest very interesting thing to ponder on. Why, for example, people with a lot of tribal energy, you know, who live in a bargain, you know, principle. And they do things for others, and they expect that others will do things for them. But not everyone has that energy. I don’t have any tribal energy.

Juliette Stapleton [00:22:54]:
You can do things for me. There’s no way I feel obligated to do things back to you only when I’m conditioned. Like, if it’s like it’s a thought in my head. Oh my god. I need to do something. Do I really, when my in my body, want to give something back to you just because you offered me something amazing? No. This is the truth. So we base our expectations of others based on ourselves.

Juliette Stapleton [00:23:13]:
And I think one of the things human design gave me is this expansion of consciousness understanding. Everybody’s very unique, and they Could be very different from you, so you cannot do that. But this is what happens, you know, because we just assume that everybody is exactly like you and then it’s just such a, You know, slap in your face that they don’t do what you expect them to do.

Annita Keane [00:23:32]:
I know. It’s like each having their own pair of sunglasses. You know, the the frequency of of that we’re expressing is what we’re seeing through. And so, it’s it’s funny. I giggle sometimes. I can actually tell what people are, what even profile they are by listening to them sometimes. And and as you say, Everybody there’s a lot of tribal energy. Everybody does it like this time.

Annita Keane [00:23:57]:
They’re no. They don’t. No. They don’t. You know, it’s really funny. But yeah.

Juliette Stapleton [00:24:00]:
You’re not. It’s true. And there’s another thing to to remember that there is no shortcuts, guys. If you’re born a projector, you are here to learn the hard way, by the way, to even if your parents are human design ex enthusiasts and they will try and bring you the right way. I actually intuitively brought my daughter projector. Quite projector like. Now I realized this. You know, I gave her so much personal space.

Juliette Stapleton [00:24:24]:
There was a lot of recognition. Those so there was you know, it Sometimes it can happen. And even at that, you still you’re there with all this openness. You’re still here to learn what it means To hold back and wait for invitations or how to show up and where you can you don’t need an invitation. Because all of that learning and all of that hurt and all of that bitterness, This is where the source of wisdom. So the more then you become more grounded, you also become aware. Okay. These are the things that don’t work for me.

Juliette Stapleton [00:24:54]:
That’s very important thing. It doesn’t work for me. So what works for me is this. Then you start the next stage, which you mentioned, Anita, is training others How to treat yourself. This is the key. I think everybody, not just projectors, need to, in a way, set healthy boundaries and train others how to Manufacturers, they have to do that. This is what in for like, the strategy to inform us. You know? Let people know how to inform you so you don’t get annoyed at them.

Juliette Stapleton [00:25:22]:
You know, either tiptoeing or, you know, interrupting you. You have to understand. So everything has its own little nuance. And I I think I I say that very often myself that in human design, it’s a science of differentiation. It’s about how unique you are, but it’s also about the unique interpretation You then eventually get about what it is for you and your energy type 2 for projector, wait for invitation, so for a manifestor to inform, For generator way to respond. So you’re not actually misunderstanding this. And the only way to do it is to try and do actually follow your strategy and authority. Many people in human like, come to human design.

Juliette Stapleton [00:25:59]:
I know that because I do my, you know, reports, my marketing blueprint by design reports, and people say I’m with my human design, and then I get them on the calls, especially generated types. And they’re like, so so how do I respond? What how long do I wait for? They think their lightning bolt is going to happen and Something like that. So it’s knowledge is useless unless you’re embodying it. And embodying it is where the key is. So you learn all this You know, you go through the bitterness. I mentioned I had a whole decade. There was 1 year in my life I felt like I’m falling into this bottomless pit. Everything was awful.

Juliette Stapleton [00:26:31]:
I think it was 2011, and I think it was the year of the minimum the the most minimum of solar activity. We have these years Sometimes where this can happen. But there was so much bitterness. There’s no way I could be empowered in any way. All I saw is how unfair the world is to me. You know? But but the wisdom that even that year gave me now in hindsight, I get a chance to, you know, analyze it all, Feel it all and then take away things. And one of the things was you train others how to treat you. The moment these others don’t treat you the way you have Train them if you let them know.

Juliette Stapleton [00:27:07]:
Right? That’s also red flag. They’re incorrect people. So no need to be bitter about them. They’re just incorrect. It’s Like your people, not your people. Not your people go way away. Your people you’re focusing on, why are you getting upset about someone who is incorrect person for you? It’s a waste of time.

Annita Keane [00:27:22]:
Exactly. And that’s really interesting because, Neptune moved into Pisces in 2011, actually, And it’s still there, which means our an evaluation of our ideals, of our dreams. And what they say in psychotherapy is, You know, the only the only thing that gets us pissed off is arguing with reality. And the truth is we’ve been playing with expectations instead of reality. And so no one is gonna measure up because those expectations are Off the charts, ridiculously, perfection. You know, Pisces is perfectionism on one side, accepting on the other but perfectionism. And so Over the last 10 years, we have become and as part of our cosmic training, is we’re becoming more Questioning about what we’ve been taught and what we believe in, how we should be, how we shouldn’t be. And and as you said with human design, now we have a, a map, an energetic map that we can use to build our own body of evidence based on Determining our own set of nonnegotiables, which makes it a beautiful boundary setting system, which is based on us Rather than telling the other person, this is what you should do for me to be happy.

Annita Keane [00:28:42]:
Instead, we’re kinda doing, no. This is what I do for me to be happy. Now wherever you want to fall in, you know? I mean, it’s just It’s just crazy how we genuinely are being invited in the last since 2011, actually, To explore those ideals and unrealistic expectations that we’re trying to fulfill, That have no bearing with who we are. But, you know and as well, a lot of the gurus are the energy gurus. I I went from pure science into energy work. They’re there. Oh, you’ll know when you know, and this kind of arbitrary way of looking at information drove me crazy as a 51. I said, no.

Annita Keane [00:29:24]:
Tell Tell me exactly. I need to know the information, you know, not realizing I was a 51. But even realizing with our profile how we Interact with our world, with everything. To build that body of evidence with our strategy and authority, it’s just Information is nothing without practice. I don’t

Juliette Stapleton [00:29:43]:
think so. That is social. Knowledge is nothing. People are getting too hooked up while we’re on this topic. People are getting too hooked up On all the little things in human design. So here’s Anita here who is so knowledgeable about planets and gates. I don’t I don’t I can’t I know a few gates because I’ve been, you know, Repeatedly working with or, you know, just just came across. So I know a couple, but I wouldn’t off the top of my head be able to tell you every gate.

Juliette Stapleton [00:30:06]:
It’s not my thing, and I don’t even Feel dronter. Because at the end of the day, if you’re not embodying, following your strategy and authority, which activates the correctness of everything else, You don’t need to know anything else. Right? But you need to understand how this energy mapping works for you And strategy, you know, like waiting for invitations for, for a projector. And I think we should talk about again why you have wait as well. We I don’t think we really dug into that yet. But, you know, understanding your strategy and then experimenting with following it, Paul, listening to your authority, inner authority. If you’re emotional like Anita, wait wait a bit. Wait for emotional clarity.

Juliette Stapleton [00:30:47]:
If you’re like me, In the moment, you know yes or no. Don’t question it. Don’t try and logically question it. It’s a yes or a no. Mhmm. Everything else doesn’t matter. That was the correct thing. And so you you sometimes you apply it, sometimes you override it with your mind, and then you eventually experiment with this and you come with this To this point of grounding, which actually is the place where you can then see and question everything because you already know the The reference point.

Juliette Stapleton [00:31:17]:
You already know how it feels when something is correct or incorrect. This is huge. For me, it’s Huge. And everybody with your uniqueness, with your design, you have different slightly different ways, for example, to determine this correctness, you know. But You still can get there, you know, and then embody this. So it doesn’t matter how many books on human design you have on your shelf if you don’t understand or even especially if you don’t actually live it Mhmm. Or or at least try, then it’s pointless. You’re time reading information that I

Annita Keane [00:31:51]:
find good point. That’s a really good point. And I do find that as a projector When I started, first people, they’re, oh, you don’t have a sacral. You can’t have your yes response. And I’m kinda that’s just crap. Let’s just bullshit. For two reasons. 1, because, actually, as a projector, we do have a tangible sense of yes and no.

Annita Keane [00:32:12]:
It’s just it’s in a different area 2 are sacral beings, you know. And and when we do do that, now the invitations become as leaders, I find, actually, one of my biggest keys to invitations is me getting clear about what I want.

Juliette Stapleton [00:32:31]:
Yeah.

Annita Keane [00:32:31]:
And so I think, yes, I want to do this. And as that’s an energetic intention we’re setting. That’s in itself Projecting out an arrow to the universe saying, yeah, I want this. And when we’re in that cat place, we’re not Tonight, we’re not double guessing it. We’re not in that place of confuse how or what or why. We actually know that’s what we want. Now what happens is someone calls me and says, hey, Anita, and it’ll be directly related to what I said I want to do.

Juliette Stapleton [00:33:03]:
That is so yeah. That’s so true.

Annita Keane [00:33:05]:
Yeah. Yeah. You even said it

Juliette Stapleton [00:33:07]:
last week. Good point.

Annita Keane [00:33:08]:
Yeah. You said it last week. You said, Oh my god. I was looking for an appointment, and, I wanted this particular person, and the nearest date was July. But as soon as I got clear, yes, I want this person, the appointment became available within a couple of weeks. You know? That’s how the projectors, Invite invitations if if so to speak. I have a brilliant example. We were, selling up in Indiana.

Annita Keane [00:33:35]:
We were selling up our house, and I was just at the kitchen think thinking, okay. We’re selling the house. I’m very happy to do so. I I wonder what needs to happen for me to get this ready. The woman who sold us the house a year previous Just walked across the kitchen window. Walked across the kitchen window, and I said, I wonder will I let her know that the house is back on the market. And I said, okay. I know my knowing.

Annita Keane [00:34:01]:
As you said, I know my knowing. So I just said, don’t bite the bullet. And I went out and I said, listen. Heads up. We’re moving. If you want 1st dibs on the house. Let me know. And, 2 days later, we got a phone call from our realtor saying, The previous owner wants to look around the house, will offer you $20 over the market offer over the market value if you don’t put it on market.

Juliette Stapleton [00:34:28]:
Wow. That is amazing. That’s a yeah.

Annita Keane [00:34:30]:
It is. And it’s a big one. So clear about the Change I wanted to make, I definitely want to sell this house. And I had a house one last. We’ve bought and sold a lot of houses in the last 20 years, but that was a big one. I got clear, Stayed open to the guidance, and it was thought within a couple of weeks. It was ridiculously good. You know?

Juliette Stapleton [00:34:51]:
It’s an amazing example. Sometimes things like that happen. It’s Literally like miracles. You know, they happen. But you have to miracles happen when you’re grounded. Miracles happen. All the good stuff happens when you allow it, And the allowing is to slow down and be and be grounded and then, you know, allow this into your life, you know, without any hassle.

Annita Keane [00:35:09]:
That’s absolutely true. It reminds me of a 3 lane highway where you have too slow on the inside, you have too fast on the outside. In the middle lane, Not only are you driving the car to its optimum mobility, it’s not as stressful for you, you’re not falling asleep, you’re not stressing out. It’s really it’s finding our Middle lane.

Juliette Stapleton [00:35:29]:
Exactly. And then you know the opportunity whether you need to take something over, you go to the fast lane, or you need to get off that highway and you take the slow lane. Right? There is This is very, very good, actually, analogy. I I really love it. I think it’s time for us to also explain why we have to wait for invitations because I know there’s gonna be projectors who are not very, you know, deep into human design just yet or they don’t understand it. And and There is this cool thing. Like, why do I have to wait? You know? We we will talk about the fact that waiting is not sitting on your hands, and we did have a whole episode on active waiting already in this, series, so you can look it up. There’s gonna be probably a link somewhere in the description or below.

Juliette Stapleton [00:36:09]:
But today, you know, let’s just talk about the invitation. It’s really important to understand when you need to definitely need to get invitations. There’s like, it’s not that actually for everything. You don’t need an invitation to, You know, cook something. You to to go to the shop and buy yourself an outfit. You don’t need an invitation to create yourself a website if you’re in a web you know, if you’re in, or create a start a business. You don’t need an invitation to start a business, honestly. These are things you can do because these are the things where you’re making yourself available To others.

Juliette Stapleton [00:36:41]:
Right? Where you do need invitation is mostly when people or places are involved. So any relationships. Relationships, especially marriage or clients, you need to have some form of invitation. By the way, with clients, here’s my experience. When you have a very well thought through funnel where a person comes in and invest with you, maybe some in my case, I have These marketing blueprints by design, they’re the entry level. Right? They’re not very cheap product, but they’re an entry level. Somebody Orders done. That’s an invitation for me to guide them.

Juliette Stapleton [00:37:17]:
That’s what they want by asking me for this product. Right? So then when they’re on the call and by the way, I never had an incorrect person on the call, so already good. When they’re on the call, then I can see how we vibe. And usually, I can see how people will really vibe. They either ask me on the call what’s the next step or they sign up for my next launch. You know, they invite me to guide them further. You know? So there is still an invitation, but what I am doing is I’m making sure they’re they know that I have places available. So I Still have my launch.

Juliette Stapleton [00:37:48]:
I don’t need to be invited to send people emails about my program being open or, you know, a launch or the opportunity to work with me. These are things I’m making myself available. Right? But when we are directly communicating with people, waiting for an invitation for guidance, Specifically, building coming into their relationships specifically, it’s really important and also a place. A place where we are because the environment will affect us also hugely. You know, these are the 3 areas where we need some sort of More or less formal invitation. And, yes, we can ask a question. We can position ourselves. There are certain ways, but the invitations need to be Very strong.

Juliette Stapleton [00:38:27]:
And your response to it you mentioned this, Anita, just a few minutes ago. Your response to the invitation is key. That’s The cat doesn’t go to anyone who says come here. Come here. Waiting for invitations is only one thing. The big thing is then your internal yes. I get invitations all the time. I just got an invitation for helping me achieve another bestseller position and some more marketplaces with my book today.

Juliette Stapleton [00:38:52]:
And yet Through the invitation, there was part of this this the invitation, the the package that I said completely no. Nope. Not doing this. Doing this, but not doing this because Just because somebody wants to do something for me and invites me, and it wasn’t a pitch as well, it was a pure invitation from Goodwill. I still don’t have to say yes because I have to go with what feels correct for me, and that is the cat thing to do. That’s the projector thing to do. You know, that’s the only thing. But we have to be very, very careful with this.

Juliette Stapleton [00:39:22]:
And this is why the invitation for, you know, where to live, who to marry, or Or who to be long term partners with within any kinda it could be business partners, friends. That’s where you need to be invited. When you’re invited, when an you let the other person to initiate. And by the way, it’s not initiating as in manifestor and if initiating, just go and do it. So for example, it could be a generator type who responded to something they saw in you and then they invite you. You know? So it’s not that Somebody is just initiating out of nowhere. Not at all. If you make yourself available and they see you, this is why online visibility is so important for projectors as a leader, As a thought leader.

Juliette Stapleton [00:40:03]:
Right? They will invite you. They will respond to you. You just make yourself available. Smaller things creating content and all these things. They’re not waiting. You don’t need any invitation. This is how we make ourselves available. The lighthouse needs to turn that lamp on In order for the boats to see the the light.

Juliette Stapleton [00:40:21]:
Right? And this is this is very, very important, you know. And why is with people? That’s again brings me Back to the basics of understanding the aura shape. If you use this real laser focus heavy in a way Aura, heavy in terms of that it goes in like this laser. I don’t know if you ever had laser surgery. I had once on my skin. It’s like it’s like literally, like, breaking through so fast, and it’s it’s unstoppable. Can’t be gentle with this. This is what we are.

Juliette Stapleton [00:40:52]:
So somebody we want to guide someone. We have something to say about someone. They didn’t invite us. This is what we just did. We just went like with this laser. They had no chance To have it soft or lightweight or, you know, in any way, gently. They just felt violated. That’s a good way to put it.

Juliette Stapleton [00:41:10]:
You start giving your advice to someone who didn’t invite you. You violated their aura, their you know, you went straight in. They didn’t invite you. That’s why you’re getting the Hand in your face, so don’t complain because you didn’t wait. Because you have responsibility to understand how heavy this feels. You can’t violate others. And we projectors. We we have this issue with boundary invasion because we don’t understand where our aura ends and the other begins.

Juliette Stapleton [00:41:34]:
Imagine if You have the generator type with this porous, like, big, huge aura that fills the room. You come in there. You don’t know where they end you begin. I know I don’t. I know I don’t. And it’s a big big thing because you have to be extra responsible to hold back. That’s why we have to wait. But the moment that generator says you’re the guide, guide me.

Juliette Stapleton [00:41:54]:
I had actually like, I had this situation where somebody says, well, in our relationship, You’re the guide. Just guide me and just went like this. And so and it’s so good because this is just visually represents the aura opening, then I could guide. And you know what? Can I guide this person on everything else? No. Only at these little things that what, you know, at that point, this person wanted. That’s the only thing. I try and guide him another, You know, in other areas, I get this look that don’t go there, and I have to retreat back.

Annita Keane [00:42:24]:
And that’s these they’re really good points because we need to remember that As projectors, we’re really only learning how our energy operates. So we have been amplified generators for a long time. So we have been living the amplified, you know, super, super helpful, super, energy world that We actually don’t belong to you don’t see a cat kinda skulking in by the wall, you know, worried about being a cat. You they they just They’re just the cat without apology. That’s so for us, as you said, it’s about that timing and recognizing. Since I learned about my design, the one phrase I always use is, that’s a fab idea. You know what? Let me get back to you on that, You know? And remind me because, of course, as if I won, once I’m gone and gone, I’m into something else altogether. You know? It’s whatever shiny squirrely object I’m after getting tied into, but it’s understanding the timing of We don’t actually have an energetic connection to the throat.

Annita Keane [00:43:30]:
So as you said, when we speak and and I don’t want to say speak when we’re not spoken to. I mean, when we, As you say, when we inter when we inter interject our guidance when not being asked, I know myself. The one thing I get back is, did I ask you? Well, that

Juliette Stapleton [00:43:48]:
that’s that’s true. And there’s also a couple of things I want to just say because you mentioned that, you know, you you’re getting back To people guys, Anita is also an emotional authority projector, so it’s actually correct for her. It’s not necessarily correct for me, for example, to wait. I can know straight away. So you have to figure out your way. Just, again, where the disclaimer with everything we’re saying is that if it’s correct for me Or Anita. That it’s not necessarily correct for you. This is why you can’t just say everything take everything at at at a face value.

Juliette Stapleton [00:44:18]:
You have to judge. You have To gauge, you have to evaluate is this is your way and this is where human design gives you a very practical way. Then it’s up to you not to go and learn more about all the gates and all that, but just actually go and practice this so you have your own toolbox Of things.

Annita Keane [00:44:36]:
Exactly. And it’s it’s about developing the environment that allows you to connect with that decision strategy Easily, you know. Understanding that when we’re in the middle lane, when we’re calm, composed, collected, balanced, grounded, that that’s when we are in Prime position. Position a for our guidance and for our being able to hear our inner yes As opposed to when we’re with other people, especially as projectors, it was so easy to pick up their yes as ours. Oh,

Juliette Stapleton [00:45:08]:
it’s true. Yeah.

Annita Keane [00:45:09]:
It’s so true. That was one thing that struck me. Absolutely, with this with this splenic authority, you definitely you go straight ahead. But for me, I have a triple split and Emotion. Right? I’m actually better off going to a cafe and having people around me that Fill my splits without the agenda to my decision. That’s the biggest the biggest thing that’s that I find as a projector. Or if I’m with a generator now, I will say, okay. I see that you have a yes to this.

Annita Keane [00:45:40]:
Now I’ll go and I’ll operate my own decision strategy to make sure that I am also on the same page with this.

Juliette Stapleton [00:45:50]:
This this is actually a really good point. You’re you’re making a couple of points there that I want to Clarify a little bit because 2 things. One thing you said that we are amplifying generators. Guys, when when a projector is in a group of people. Most likely, 99%, you are going to be conditioned to be a generator. You know, some projectors are good. If you have a lot of activation around your You are good with small groups, but most of projectors aren’t. I am completely I’m a lone wolf.

Juliette Stapleton [00:46:17]:
I can only be myself Either with 1 on 1 with people or completely on my own. When you read about projectors need to rest, it’s not that you have to do nothing, But you do need to be alone sometimes away from the auras because and that’s just what happens. You know? It’s not like generators are bastards. You’re what are you doing to us projectors? This is not like this, but but this is the truth, you know, that we are actually walking around. And most of the time, we are kinda generators, and that would exhaust us as well. You know? So we need that time alone. We need that time to regroup. This is where this controversial thing, but projectors controversial Project your sleeping alone.

Juliette Stapleton [00:46:53]:
I’ll say that first, and then I come back to the controversial because everybody’s like, what? You know? I’m in a marriage. How can I sleep alone? Well, well, I know. You know, I can’t sleep beside the generator because I’m awake. I’m so used to not being a generator that when I’m in that aura, how can I sleep? You know, it’s it’s it’s Just awareness. You know? That that awareness gives you a lot of understanding of your strategy and your being, the needs the cat needs. Right? What the cat needs is rest, and this is why. Because you’re carrying energies of other people that just burning you out, Burning you out, adding to stress. You need that time alone.

Juliette Stapleton [00:47:30]:
You need that time to to just flush that. You know, that’s that’s pretty much. And another thing as well Anita mentioned earlier, you said we don’t have energy flow to the throat. I want to just clarify for guys. It’s not about I because I have a forty eight channel, which is my spleen to the throat. But the spleen is not a a motor center. It’s an awareness center. So, technically, I have energy flowing to the throat, But I don’t have any motor centers that are pushing energy to the throat for a manifestation.

Juliette Stapleton [00:47:56]:
That’s why I’m not a manifestor. Just to Clarify that it’s we’re not talking about just any energy. This is there’s certain type of energy that when it flows from the motor center, when that motor is on, Yeah. That’s where, you know, it the initiation is possible. You don’t need to wait. But when you don’t have that and projectors don’t have that by design. Otherwise, we would be manifestors. This is where you need to wait for the right moment.

Juliette Stapleton [00:48:22]:
Timing is powerful. It feels only it and I know. I know. And I mentioned the Achilles heel. And I know, you know, in some areas of my life, I really am so impatient. I actually think impatience is one of my shadows and one of the gates there that like, I have this thing with impatience. And yet it’s the patience where everything, all the magic happens. So with timing comes power, With knowing the right timing, when to speak, when not to speak, when to do, when not to to do, when to say yes and when to say no.

Juliette Stapleton [00:48:53]:
You or if you’re a mental projector, To allow time for the mental clarity to happen. That’s your authority. Time is powerful. Waiting is powerful. And for projectors, well, another thing that we haven’t mentioned this here now, but with being available, right, there is a but. There is 1 big but. When a projector is making themselves available, but their intention is sort of say, I am the best for the job. Hire me.

Juliette Stapleton [00:49:21]:
I am the best for the job. That kind of corporate mentality, which we most most of us who have ever been employees, we have that. I’m the best for the job. Right? Can I even, like, you know, am I the best for the job? This kind of competition. That is not a powerful stance. This is not a grounded stance. This is not making yourself available. Making yourself available is the lighthouse that doesn’t go and grab those boats.

Juliette Stapleton [00:49:42]:
Right? It just stands there with the light on. So for us, for example, in marketing, attraction marketing, where you focus on expressing yourself through content, you are Putting it out there, you have to be smart about SEO. You have to be smart about, you know, being discoverable. But on top of that, you’re just there. That’s how my business works. I can’t explain to a traditional businessperson how I get clients because attraction marketing works on this premise that you are, You know, you are there. You have your light shining. People come to you.

Juliette Stapleton [00:50:11]:
So this is really important that we that’s why we need to wait sometimes to speak. Because if you’re in a meeting and you’re going to be trying to, you know, put your 2¢ without an invitation, You will notice that you are actually being ignored and it will feel very, very bitter. But if you wait until you’re asked and then you voice your opinion, your whatever it is you are you know, want to say. That could be perceived really, really well. Again, waiting is powerful In some context. That’s why I wanted to clarify.

Annita Keane [00:50:43]:
Or invite yourself into the conversation. In other words, I have a suggestion. Would you like to hear it?

Juliette Stapleton [00:50:49]:
That’s it. Yes.

Annita Keane [00:50:49]:
Be a beautiful way to in to to test the waters. But I’ll give you a really good example, and this is again is back to the cat. We have to do what we do. As projectors, we need to do what we do, decide how we want to our business, what we want to sell, how we help people. Right? I remember going in for a a an interview with a with some h with a HR group. I was going in to do stress management in the company. And I just sat down. There was no persuasing persuading.

Annita Keane [00:51:19]:
There was no nothing. I just literally said, okay. What you’re doing already isn’t working. You know that. Meditation and yoga are fantastic, but they only go so far in the corporate setting. What I do is teach you energetic tools that allow you to Shift your balance and rec you know, first of all, recognize when you’re stressed and shift your balance straight away so that your, Managers can truly be decisive, composed, and make decisions from their expertise rather than from the stress. Right? The panic, the firefighting. And it was so funny.

Annita Keane [00:51:53]:
They were there and expecting a sales pitch, and I was there. Okay. I’ve told you what I do. This is it. Take it or leave it. So the response was really funny. I did get the job, but they literally turned around and said, your sales sucks. That was what they said.

Annita Keane [00:52:08]:
But the truth is, as projectors, it has to be something that lights us up. Something that we want to share, something that we know we’re designed to share, rather than any convincing, Any any any any kind of persuading doesn’t work for us.

Juliette Stapleton [00:52:29]:
We don’t need to have sales techniques. We don’t we don’t need you know? And I I know that they said that because in the corporate Setting you kinda you almost expect a certain structure to a sales pitch or something like that. And they’re like, oh my god. You don’t you don’t have that? What? But the truth is that, first of all, life is not corporate settings, so that’s a very different world. We can’t and this is what I see a lot in the business industry, For coaches, for example, where people take the corporate setting strategies and then start applying it to a completely different world. Right? That’s a different conversation. However, one thing you mentioned that is so important, and I just just before we started talking about this, I wrote a note for myself to make sure that we mentioned this because I think the key to attracting aligned invitations and just being this successful Projector you’re born to be, you’re designed to be, right, is self recognition. And within that self recognition, this is what cats every cat knows.

Juliette Stapleton [00:53:24]:
You know, it recognizes itself. That’s why they’re so cool. That’s why they’re not like dogs, like, begging for attention.

Annita Keane [00:53:32]:
Exactly. Or the phrase

Juliette Stapleton [00:53:33]:
they want to eat, of course, you know, because they need

Annita Keane [00:53:36]:
Exactly. Or the phrase, the leopard doesn’t change his spots. You know, I’m kinda there. It doesn’t need It doesn’t need to change its spots. Its spots it’s quite happy with its spots. Thanks very much. That was it.

Juliette Stapleton [00:53:46]:
And but it’s the key. And I think that this is where in my lived experience, in personal lived Experience. Self recognition. In every situation, every time when I fall into the, you know, not self thinking keen and and just really break apart even sometimes, which happens because I’m human. It’s trying to recognize myself within this content, That is what brings me back. Getting my catnip back. I actually have a little mini journal, that I realized that it’s a picture of a cat walking on An alley of like, there is trees and there’s an alley and there’s a little black cat walking. And so I called it my Katniss journal Where those times when maybe I lose it, I can come back and journal a couple of things that to remind myself what it is.

Juliette Stapleton [00:54:29]:
But actually, if I think about it. This is all about self recognition. Uh-huh. It’s bringing it back to yourself even in relationships with others. For example, romantic Or let’s say you want a job, you want clients. It’s about like, decision depends on the other person. Right? Or you’re not 100% sure what the response said. And if you If you focus on them, you even though projectors are here to be focused on others, but that’s not the same focus.

Juliette Stapleton [00:54:55]:
It’s focused on others, but understanding something about themselves. In this case, you’re just giving your power away. So self recognition comes back with being, Feeling this wholeness while allowing these other people to be what they are and do what they are. But but actually disconnecting from them in terms of, recognition seeking recognition. You have to see that you’re awesome before anyone else Can see that you’re awesome. If you want somebody to feel that you are grounded and and in control and and just amazing person, You have to see that first. Because as long as you don’t see it, you’re going to behave in a way that is desperate. And we projectors, with all the bitterness that happens, that’s how we come across desperate and bitter.

Annita Keane [00:55:45]:
Yeah. Yeah. That is Such a good point because it’s it’s just another level of that leadership or or being the leader in your own story. You know, as as projectors, you know, we we really do. We we focus on the energy. We’re energy Managers. But when when we recognize ourselves in that way, become responsible For our recognition, it stops the desperate dating stuff. It stops the I can’t do anything.

Annita Keane [00:56:16]:
I’m waiting because The responsibility is my clients to hire me. Instead, I kinda go, you know, that’s that’s such a disempowered position. Yeah. Taking responsibility for your own self recognition is like it’s especially as a 5 one projector, it’s huge. I remember being, remember bringing myself and my sister had an arrangement with our kids in the summer. We kind of rotated as the kids stayed in the same beach house, But we kind of came back and forth from work. I brought 6 kids off to the beach, picnicked the whole lot, and we had a fabulous day. And at the end of it, I stopped the car, and 4 doors flew open and all the kids disappeared.

Annita Keane [00:56:59]:
And I was there, oh my God. You know, they didn’t even say thank you. And I was there. I was starting to get into this. They were we were tired. We were hungry. And that was fine, anyway. So you know what? No.

Annita Keane [00:57:11]:
No. I’m not going there. I’m so grateful to have done this. I love to be in a position where my kids can get to know their cousins all summer. This is amazing. I’m I’m so delighted that I’m in a position to be able to do this. Right? Next thing, kids came out and they were there. Oh, we were just bursting to go to the toilet.

Annita Keane [00:57:31]:
And there’s a thanks, Amelia, and auntie Anita, I know whatever that was, you know, but it started with me recognizing, And I noticed that. And we do, as projectors, we notice when there isn’t an invitation because we feel the resistance. But we also notice, As a five one, I just wanted to make this point really clear. The invitation ends.

Juliette Stapleton [00:57:52]:
Oh, yes. Yeah. This is another thing. The invitation’s not forever. It’s True. You know? It can end, and and it’s physically palpable to everyone involved.

Annita Keane [00:58:00]:
Absolutely. Happy ever after Isn’t a thing. It’s not a thing. Happy ever after is understanding that I know how to navigate the bumps in the road. Now one of my clients Said that. They said, oh my god. You know, the shit still hits the fan, Anita. It’s just I know how to deal with it now.

Annita Keane [00:58:18]:
I know where I stand in relation to it, and I don’t get sucked in. But with With this invitation, it does expire especially for the 5th line. I don’t know how you plan.

Juliette Stapleton [00:58:30]:
I think for everyone. And I think expiration expiry, I feel it’s very, very, obviously when it happens, you know, with clients, with with people, sometimes, even in in my marriage, you know, the, the 19 years I I was with Les before he died, There was there were years where I felt like the invitation actually kinda died off. But in marriage, it’s different because sometimes it it can come back, sometimes maybe because you’re just Together maybe because I’m a 1 3rd line, makes bonds, but breaks bonds and then makes them again and some sometimes often in the same marriage and the same person. So this is slightly different. There are so many nuances to it. But generally, the invitation is is correct for now. You know, obviously, if you’re emotional authority, you need to wait, but it’s correct For now so you do it. It brought something into your life.

Juliette Stapleton [00:59:18]:
Do not grasp onto it. Allow it to expire because this is a lack mentality. And for a projector, it’s so important to to work on this abundance mentality. Self recognition is all about abundance mentality. It’s about all being open to receive and just being Cool in who you are, and that doesn’t involve grasping on to something forever. And I know that this is also as a third line profile person. The moment you say forever, somebody says to me, I want to work with you forever. I have to, like I probably lose sleep for a day or to feeling trapped.

Juliette Stapleton [00:59:51]:
Then I have to then I have to, like, assess, like, what what isn’t good for me or what, you know. And And I’m going out now with the 3rd line guy, and I sent him a message saying, I’d hold your hand forever, and then I unsent it because I thought to myself, oh my god. What am I saying to 3rd line person. You can’t do this, the forever stuff, because of the the dynamics. But this is the nuances we know, but that’s more about the profiles. I think that, even with with the the invitation and the exploration, life is a journey. Life is a journey. It’s a windy road with beautiful and sometimes not so beautiful things, you know, some lessons that that teach you and rewards and all these things.

Juliette Stapleton [01:00:30]:
Everything in life is meant For you to be wiser for you as a light being to be wiser, to bring something into the world, you cannot bring something into the world if you haven’t experienced the world. You do not know what’s beautiful if you haven’t been through the ugly. You have to remember that. You have to remember that. And every time when things are down or you’re bitter, Yes. You can reground, start with self recognizing because just like your situation with the car, it’s so it’s so it’s so good. It’s such a good thing. The moment you ground and the kids came back, said thank you, auntie Anita.

Juliette Stapleton [01:01:02]:
It was great. You know? It it just happens. You know? But the moment, it happened to me so many times, You reground and things just come back or they or something new comes in. You know, this is really, really important, but also letting go. You know, if these kids didn’t go back to you, it’s okay. It’s okay.

Annita Keane [01:01:21]:
Yeah. And it’s something that I noticed when I’m talking with someone That has invited me, and I feel unrecognized or with a partner and feel unrecognized, I immediately and this is what’s important. I take charge of it. Either. I recognize inside, my inside voice. Yeah. I recognize me. I pick me.

Annita Keane [01:01:41]:
I’m amazing, you know, And, you know, energetically, maybe dissolving cords so that I don’t get stuck into the fracas or into the resistance, and get into that proving. I just step back and go, I recognize me, especially as a five one as well. It’s probably this is you can really sense my lens. My thing is like a fissure. I put in the beta. I throw in the idea or the solution and leave it. You know?

Juliette Stapleton [01:02:06]:
That’s very that’s actually very you should be doing here. Yeah. Yeah. Fixing them, but they now can fix themselves. You just gave them a solution. That’s your role.

Annita Keane [01:02:16]:
Exactly. Yeah. Yes. You made a great point about corporate, and you said, you know, the business strategies, and it’s not really But a lot of people have that thought process around their business strategy. That’s why human design can be so effective to help people who are in that mindset to step out And step into their own way of doing things. But it’s it’s it’s just an amazing empowerment as a projector to understand that Once you become the boss of you by taking responsibility for that recognition, for that acknowledgement, and doing what you do, Not worrying about what will I do? How will I say it? How will I play with it? Play with it. It’s so much more fun to play, with The invitation process. I remember being at a seminar once, you know, one of these holistic fairs and had my whole booth with the human design, and Nothing was happening.

Annita Keane [01:03:12]:
I was standing in front of the booth and, you know, with my brochures. Welcome. Welcome. And so I said, you know what? That’s not the projected way of doing things. I sat down and with my energy, I was Going, I’m right here if you want to know this. There’s a feather floating in front of me. I’m right here. This is you know, no no words, no nothing, and people immediately started showing up the booth, I had to call my daughter to say, listen.

Annita Keane [01:03:33]:
You’re gonna have to time these people because, there’s there’s I have a waiting list now for many me. You know? I mean, it was ridiculous how when I did it inside and set my energy, and We’re very much the projector. We’re very much the facilitator of Build It and It Will Come. And the generator is not so much it’s very much our Process for success. You know? It’s it’s I don’t know. That just came to me now.

Juliette Stapleton [01:04:01]:
I I actually really like that the fact that you said that. I, personally think that everybody needs To focus within. Generators, you’re here to know who you are. Of course, you’re gonna focus within, but no. We can grasp. We just keep grasping onto others. What will they think? What how can we do this? How can like, it’s all this grasping on the desperate energy. You focus within.

Juliette Stapleton [01:04:22]:
You self recognize no matter what your energy Type is for projectors, it’s it’s like a must. But no matter what type it is, it’s actually the key to success as a projector. I can tell you that. You know, it’s a key to success because that’s where you become so grounded. Your light goes on. People who are your people Come in. It’s you know, you’re not a slave to your mind processes or the mind generally, which shouldn’t be making any decisions. What that what happens when you’re focused on the outside too much, you know, and this is why that that story as well.

Juliette Stapleton [01:04:56]:
You ground yourself. You become the become beacon of light. When you’re not grounded, when you’re, like, desperately in business, for example, in marketing, you know, we we were talking about, you know, how to like, where does desperation happens. Very often, here’s a launch. Right? Say a coach has a program, wants to get clients, starts posting on Facebook, and every post they make, They attach expectations. Instead of treating it as a neutral part of the launch and actually treating the whole launch as a neutral Activity in your business that doesn’t mean anything, doesn’t mean that you’re not worthy, doesn’t mean that people don’t want you, doesn’t mean any of those Thanks. It’s just something you do in business to make yourself available. And if this doesn’t work, you tweak it and whatever.

Juliette Stapleton [01:05:37]:
You try maybe different style. You find your own things. Right? But we don’t do that. We get so bitter. Oh my god. Nobody DM’d me. I asked them to DM me in my post, and nobody DM’d me. And now, you know, you’re already now from that moment repelling Potential clients because you are there too desperately attaching to this.

Juliette Stapleton [01:05:56]:
You know? Even though we’re talking about energy that is Maybe not visible. It’s not you don’t have to be in in the person’s presence for this energy to be felt. The moment you become desperate for somebody else’s attention, That’s when that somebody feels that and it’s repelling. That’s where they will feel resistance to give you attention. Why they don’t know? You don’t know. But that was your doing. That was always you’re doing. So for no matter what type you are, it’s really important that you come back to yourself.

Juliette Stapleton [01:06:23]:
But for the projector, it’s just the way of living. And and and it’s funny how you mentioned also the cat knows what it’s doing, also expired invitations. I will finish the story about Travis the cat Who came on the last day when we we hired these 2 big skips, and we put 90 maybe more percent of everything we owned into the skip. We threw away our life that, you know, accumulated over 15 years in that house, threw it away, And drove into the sun sunrise. It’s like crazy fairy tale story of my life. Right? At 8 o’clock. And they even took the Keep away few minutes before we were planning to drive off so we could see our belongings going. And at just earlier, when we already took everything from the house, Travis came.

Juliette Stapleton [01:07:08]:
The cat came, went into the house through the open door, went everywhere upstairs, looked at every room, came to us, had a look at it, then came downstairs. We came in, the skip went, and the cat just looked around and disappeared into the bushes. You know, it There was no desperation for this cat not to grasp onto us because it decided we’re her 2nd family. Right? No. It just The timing was off. The ex invitation expired. It’s gone. And I think that there’s beauty in that.

Annita Keane [01:07:39]:
There’s that’s a brilliant point because, Sometimes we set up leaving or letting go as a grief process instead of understanding the anticipation. And human design will tell us How we are designed to let things go also, it’s really key. And you’re right. And, you know, in a way, it’s nobody’s fault that we’ve looked outside ourselves for answers. That’s what we brought we’re brought up with. You know, as kids, we had to be taught some kind of ground rules, but our job is to find out our way of doing things. And, you know, the energy at the moment or the energy has been literally examined, have a look at our ideals, have we been holding as true? Is it still true compared to us? And then Pluto into Capricorn since 2008, It’s finally leaving next year. Thanks be to god.

Annita Keane [01:08:29]:
What systems aren’t supporting us? Where have we been given away our authority by, You know, saying yes to others and no to ourselves, where can we reclaim it? And this is really key. This is part of how We, as projectors, can really help people regain, reclaim their authority so that, you know, even I remember going to the dentist with my daughter at one point, and they were giving me these amazing options for treatment for her. And I kinda looked at them, and I thought there’s no way I’m gonna put my kid through that. And if this doesn’t work, we’ll do this. If this doesn’t work, we’ll do this. And I was there, Oh my god. Absolutely not. Right? So I literally just turned around and realized that I can talk to all these experts, but these experts are all gonna have different opinions.

Annita Keane [01:09:22]:
At the end of the day, it’s down to me to decide And step out of the who do you think you are not to accept my expertise? And one of my favorite questions for that now is, well, would you do this with your kid? Usually, all the heroics disappear.

Juliette Stapleton [01:09:39]:
That’s true. Yeah. You know, it’s just

Annita Keane [01:09:41]:
It’s we can ask the experts and do and respect the expertise. At the end of the day, the decision is ours. The choice is ours whether we do it or not. And knowing how to tap into that and knowing our invitation process Makes it really cool really cool too.

Juliette Stapleton [01:10:01]:
I agree. That was actually a really good really good point because this happens a lot. We get So caught up in somebody’s chemistry, the chemistry of them having status, maybe knowing more than us. We have a lot of our openness as projections, but everybody everybody gets up. No matter what your energy time, especially if you’re open on, you know, head and. Oh my god. You know, guys, remember that you have the, You know, the shiny object thing that the uncertainty will drive you to believe that others know more than you. No.

Juliette Stapleton [01:10:31]:
The unknown is your strength. So just just ponder on that. The unknown, not knowing is your strength. Right? So if somebody is authoritative, no matter and I Even I know I was, just revisiting my book this morning, for the 2nd, you know, for 2nd edition. And I wrote somewhere and said, even if you are so Affected by others’ chemistry. When you’re making decisions, you need to step away from that other’s chemistry. Don’t make decisions with other people in presence. Right? Because you need to make you need to hear your authority or, is okay.

Juliette Stapleton [01:11:03]:
You might have the sounding board authority if your mental projector, for example, you know, reflector. That’s different. You’re still talking at people and you’re listening to your own voice and, you know, it’s not about those people. That’s why you need to have trusted people who don’t fix you, right, and just listen. But, generally, we get so affected. We need to always bring the power back to us because what works for another person, And they will be so convincing because it works for them. But what works for another person is not guaranteed to work for anybody else in the world, in fact. They can present it that it does.

Juliette Stapleton [01:11:34]:
That’s what marketing is. Don’t hold it against us because this is just the nature of things. We’re going to sell you things you don’t need, As they say. But, no, truly marketing is about relationships. So as long as you are providing, authentic transformation or service At the end of it, you know, it doesn’t matter how you are, you know, embellishing your messaging when you’re selling. But still, it’s it’s not guaranteed to work for you. So you have your the responsibility to listen to your authority. But also sometimes your authority will say yes on things that will not work out, which is okay too because that’s the lesson.

Juliette Stapleton [01:12:07]:
So the invitations are very important but you also it’s not about just waiting for invitations. I’m just summarizing like, now I’m summarizing. Yeah. It’s not about just waiting for invitation. Waiting is a powerful place where you bring yourself back within, ground yourself, Find your cuteness. Find your power. Right? And then you are also judging when the invitation comes in, whether you want to do it or not. Whether it’s sweet for you, I have a taste recognition.

Juliette Stapleton [01:12:34]:
So for me, it’s like if it’s sweet, I’ll do it. If it’s not sweet, if if I feel this metallic thing in my throat. So not only knowing it’s wrong, there’s physical, like, mm-mm. This metal taste. So you you judge and you are in control. Troll. You don’t have to take everything that comes. If it’s incorrect for you, you’ll say no, and you don’t have to explain.

Juliette Stapleton [01:12:54]:
No is a complete sentence, my sister says. I love that that phrase. You know? And that is that is where your power lies. Meanwhile, you don’t have to have any invitation to make yourself available, but available like Anita’s story with the, with the stand, you know, on the on the conference, wherever it was, where you’re making it available. You’re not grabbing. You’re not desperately, like, you know, pulling people in. No. You’re a lighthouse.

Juliette Stapleton [01:13:18]:
Right? And that’s that’s the secret to getting aligned invitations. That’s the secret to waiting for them in a powerful way, in a way that actually works so much faster than you think. Now don’t push, Obviously, time learning to allow time to sort things out is a huge, huge magic source of magic power Because things start happening much faster, but you have to truly own that feeling of allowing time to sort things out. You really need to Master the patience to actively wait. That is the key. That is the key. Yeah.

Annita Keane [01:13:57]:
That’s a really good point. I remember having a client once who was desperate for a job, and they were there, oh my god. My savings are running out. And I remember getting the guidance. Just I tune in every so often to my clients, and I remember getting the guidance to Tell that person to calm down, take a breath, you know, balance their energy. There’s someone trying to get through to them because that static that we create with that worry energy, with that anxiety Creates a barrier.

Juliette Stapleton [01:14:24]:
That says it yeah.

Annita Keane [01:14:25]:
It tells. You know, it does. And so as soon as soon as They grounded and sent her. The phone rang. And the the the recruiting guy said, oh my god. I’ve been trying to get you all day, but I kept on being interrupted. So it was like an awareness of, hang on, that anxiety creates a barrier, a Repel the neediness creates the repelling, desperate dating energy, I call it. And the calm is the magnetizer.

Annita Keane [01:14:57]:
And such.

Juliette Stapleton [01:14:58]:
The catness. The calm the calm cat who doesn’t give a flying banana about anyone else but itself. But actually, it does because it comes in the right moments and brings magic into other people’s lives. Right? This is what we do as projectors, and it’s really, really important. So own Your, Katniss, take responsibility for your energetic makeup and what you’re bringing into the world. You’re here to Feel successful through injecting others with success. That phrase, when you get your own meaning of it, it’s mind blowingly powerful. And it it does turn you into a cat immediately.

Juliette Stapleton [01:15:35]:
And mastering the timing, you know, learning to wait for the right timing, learning to Ground yourself because that is what waiting is. I think while while you’re waiting, all you’re doing is this you’re grounding yourself in it, in this peace, and you rest in it. And it happens very fast. It’s this is also the story of my life. Just like you said, it happens very fast and then you find out that the reason for delay was some sort of little small little reason, But I think it was you. You’re repelling it. You’re you’re not being grounded. So as long as this is what this waiting does.

Juliette Stapleton [01:16:07]:
And the more you start understanding, try and find your own definition. And the only way you can do it is not by mentally thinking about it. You need to live it. You need to live it and give yourself time. Give yourself a year. It’s not something you need to you know, it’s not like you’re not getting anywhere in life. If you are going to give yourself a year to live this experiment, to follow your strategy, to wait for invitations, mastering this waiting, Seeing when you’re waiting, when you’re actually, like, pushing it or, you know, just too desperately grabbing to someone. It’s okay if you did.

Juliette Stapleton [01:16:39]:
Be forgive yourself for in even the future self for doing that. It’s gonna happen. I I do that sometimes, you know, and I noticed. Then I noticed. And when I notice, that’s the power because then I can go back, ground myself in my projector self, you know, in my catness. And and and I just love it, this whole thing about being a cat. And and I love the fact that we we made the whole theme here on this particular episode of Lighthouse projector series. Guys, this is not a projector series for projectors.

Juliette Stapleton [01:17:10]:
This is for everybody. But, yes, we’re focused on the projectors today. If you want to follow us, please do Anita Keene, anitakeene.com. The you can see the URL here on the video. Myself as well, Juliet Stapleton. Anita is a prosperity money and prosperity coach, actually. This is her thing, you know, in her presence. You get your shit together.

Juliette Stapleton [01:17:30]:
You get the resources To make money. I’m telling you, I work with with Anita, so this is this is something that she brings to the table. You know? And and and I’m an online visibility strategist, So, you know, that’s what I do. Anyway, we will see you guys in the next episode of lighthouse projector series. If you have any questions, any comments, let us know in the comments below or reach out to us. We would love to hear from you And maybe get inspired for another episode of this series. Thank you so much. Thank you, Anita, for being my lovely cohost today.

Juliette Stapleton [01:18:04]:
And guys, we will see you soon.