Just because something in your Human Design suggests you are designed to be a sociable person, it is often not exactly true for everybody.

We have to remember that Human Design is a science of DIFFERENTIATION, which, in my opinion, means you have to figure out what being “sociable” is uniquely yours and what is just a homogenized societal belief.

Some elements in Human Design refer to one’s network and networking to create opportunities, visibility, influence, and so much more, especially when talking about the Generator energy or the upper trigram lines of your Human Design profile, to mention just the top-level.

And what happens when we first learn about these elements is that, in terms of online visibility and marketing, we immediately assume that networking means joining Facebook groups and starting to “give value” and engage or that you have to attend conferences and other in-person networking events, join local Chambers of Commerce of become a BNL member to attract clients.

And yet, deep inside, it doesn’t feel that these environments and activities are correct. They feel OFF. They do not feel natural and don’t energize the way we hope they will (and, based on our assumption, the way we expect them to).

What networking really means

One big a-ha moment for me, studying, living, experimenting, and observing my own Human Design mechanics in action, was a discovery that there is often an entirely different meaning to the suggested term that is TRUE TO ME.

And in order to fully comprehend how it works – in a way that empowers me incredibly – is to find my own meaning, my own flavour, if you wish. And then use it strategically to leverage my visibility or take advantage of it in some other way that helps me fulfil my purpose and feel accomplished.

So while 5/1s make excellent leaders (generals, if you wish) of others, providing exciting hands-on, tangible solutions to overcome crises, they are NOT designed to be sociable, and most prefer a quiet time with a few select.

And although 4th line people need to cultivate and moderate their network to create an environment for the right opportunities and influence to grow, often 4/6s are not the eagerly sociable people we assume them to be at all, especially during the “on the roof” stage of their life – pulled away by their unconscious line 6, to process and reflect.

I truly believe it is vital we they go deep into finding that specific, unique meaning of the top-level terminology- and do not try to go against their nature, just because it seems that the “right way” is to be a networking addict. It is NOT!

As someone with a Design of a “lone wolf” and yet still requiring the connection with people to fulfil their purpose in life, I know that it is possible to create your specific network and influence, to be selectively sociable and attract the right opportunities and people, without ever even leaving your office.

And when I work with my visibility clients, we try to go deeper into WHO they are and what feels right for them, even if the whole world tells them they should be doing something they feel off about. Because there is simply no THE RIGHT WAY, only their own way, and getting their head around that is a process in itself, and I help them through this process as a mentor.

This is why we need to redefine what being sociable can me to YOU. What version of “sociable” fits your Design? And redefine the definition of your network, by design and otherwise, so that you can confidently grow it and nurture it without that icky feeling that you are trying to fit something that feels alien to you.

All you have to do is have your own idea of the format and the mindset around it, and you can actually surprise yourself how enjoyable socializing and networking becomes. WHEN IT ON YOUR TERMS. 

And then think about how this can be reflected in the way you run your business and showing up on your marketing.

If you want to dive deeper and let me guide you in redefining these terms, you can start by ordering your Marketing Blueprint By Design™ report below.